My Healing

I often lead Divorce Recovery support groups in our community as a volunteer. When I do, I share with the group Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ 5 Stages of Grief model so they might understand and apply it to their own personal loss and grieving process.

In this model it is clear that people will go in and out of all 5 stages during this process many times.  And it’s when a person can feel comfortable in the stage of “Acceptance” with clarity … then the healing of the heart and soul has begun and life for that person soon begins again.

That is where I am at in my life. You see I feel I have been unknowingly grieving for most of my life … about important things I lost as a child and as an adult … the loving things in life that I may have experienced for only but brief moments in time and sometimes never at all.

And now finally after much trial and tribulation, I have made it to the stage of Acceptance … of who I am … and who I am not … of my transformed belief system as it continues to unfold … and most important my relationship with myself … and with God.

And now I accept that my healing journey has completed … and it is time to begin my next journey … a journey with opportunities to smile and enjoy life … in new and wonderful ways I have yet to experience … with a pure heart and soul to share with those around me. I am glad I am where I am in my life … and so look forward to tomorrow … again and again and again.  

(Tucson March 2008)