Patterns of the Heart
Ronnie
Patterns of the Heart
A few weeks ago I found myself looking up at the night sky and asking God the question … “Is this all there is?” regarding my recently ended relationship. The next day I received an unexpected answer. My Love One and I spoke after five weeks of separation and no communication … and together chose to rekindle our heart felt relationship … and we were both very happy and excited about this opportunity ... this gift we had given ourselves.
Yes, we recognized both of us must examine our “Life Patterns of the Past” … Old Patterns … some good and some not so good … many of which were first started and programmed into us during our youth … with a knowing and an acceptance that there are at least some of these Patterns that we will want to change.
We committed to such pattern changes for obvious reasons … we both so much desire new and different results in our lives other than the ones we have experienced too many times before as a result of our Old Life Patterns. We both want and are ready to experience new results that will bring us joy and understanding with the world around us … and most important to have continued peace and love in a devoted relationship with each other.
So then this is the first Life Pattern we are changing in ourselves … a willingness to discuss and share our observations about our Old Patterns … so that we can then choose the ones that work for us … so we can find ways to change or eliminate the patterns that do not work. And also a willingness to open our hearts and souls to each other so we can communicate with each other in truth … of not only what is above the water line - the obvious … but in truth of what is also below the water line as well – what’s hidden.
And also so very important to us ... that we always communicate and listen with no judgment but only with acceptance and acknowledgement. Because this is what we desire … that is how we want to live. It is all part of an ever continuing process of growth and understanding … for this is how we choose our lives to be.
It feels good as I write these words … and now to live them from our Hearts …
Access: Public
acceptance
June 2008 
Well Bravo to you both Ron!! Yes, you did answer me on your blog…I am happy to see
the outcome of this so far and I hope the growth will continue. Whatever God puts in our lives is for a purpose, a tikkun, something that needs to be fixed in us and in the universe.
Perhaps she is your soulmate?? None is perfect, we are all flawed, no angels walking here in our bodies…we are sometimes like sandpaper, we brush up against each other and smooth one another, we teach and learn with one another, we add to each other, we grow together if we are healthy and teachable, humble, and we give thanks for what we have each day…
You know Ron, we are not promised another moment, how I miss my late husband…
and I wish I could sit with him and have coffee or take a walk together again…don't throw away what is good in your hand because you are uncertain as to whether or not it “fits your pictures” that is a defeatist attitude. Love is a commitment, if she is worth loving, marry her and make a life, build those bridges of trust and create your life together….If she is not, then don't be with her at all…this is called using one another and there will come nothing good in the end from that….just wasting each others time…
Tachlis Ron, yes, yes, or no, no….but there is no such thing as playing house, or being a little bit pregnant, its not truth, and its not fair…not to her, you, or jacob.. A child growing up doesn't need to meet new women once a year and it will be detrimental to any child's understanding of relationships as he grows.
I wish for you if you are for each other and you should know that by now, you marry her and build your life..for you, her, and your son..jacob……..NO, Ron, ?? And invite me to the wedding!~
blessings…